I guess most of us have been through times like that. If you haven't, it's a good thing! Trust me! You're probably tired from working and need a break. So how do you know? When you really loathe your job, no matter how much breaks you have once you need to head back to work, you just feel like crying and the intention to take medical leave comes to your mind.
In my previous team, I get the tired feeling from work but after each break I get it going again. Ever since I've transferred to my new team, things have gotten worst. I went over with a heart longing to learn something. I still do. But I really start to hate work 'cause of the people. I didn't realised how much it was affecting me until 2 weeks ago when I made a few mistakes that wasn't necessary at all. I've always been extra careful with my work and I couldn't accept such errors. I thought it was time for a break and we went to Hong Kong. But when I got back and it was time for work I had the same feeling.
I was talking to a friend and she shared with me this email on an article of "The hidden costs of a job you loathe". And I start to realise how true is it. A job you loathe can rob almost everything away from you. Which explains how much medical leave I've been taking 'cause it has affects my gastric alot. And my work performance!
I thought it would be good to share this here to remind us that a job is still a job like what is mention inside. It's a pretty long article but do take some time to finish reading it.
The hidden costs of a job you
loathe
By aaravind | British
Gas Smart Meter – Mon,
Jan 30, 2012
Have
you ever had that 'Sunday night feeling' - the one where the
very thought of work the next day spoils any chance you've got of switching
off and enjoying your weekend? Well what about having that feeling every
day of the week, not just on a Sunday? If you dread going into work, hate
it and everything about it when you're there, you could soon find you're
paying a very high cost for a job you clearly loathe.
"An accountant friend once
tried to describe to me how much he hated his job. "I hate the walls,
I hate the desks, I hate the plants in reception — I just hate that place
so much", recalls Ruth Cornish.
"I've hated jobs too for different
reasons. But when I felt like crying at the thought of going into the office
and had that Sunday night feeling every night, when I stopped sleeping
and started losing weight. I knew I had to do something," she adds.
Ruth, an HR consultant, has 20 years'
experience and knows how having a job you loathe can eat you up, both from
her own bitter experience and from that of her clients.
"We should all expect to have
elements of any job that we don't enjoy, find boring, even dread doing
a bit. But realistically that should not be more than 30% of our
job," Ruth explains.
From poor working conditions, to
plain old boredom, irritating or demanding colleagues, lack of job security,
a shattering daily commute, uncompetitive pay and a total lack of interest
in what you do, day in, day out, it can all have a negative impact on your
work-life happiness - or rather unhappiness.
The fact is that being stuck in
a job you hate with a vengeance is detrimental not only to your job satisfaction
levels, career progression and general happiness, but ultimately your health
and your wealth.
Workplace stress-related symptoms
are very real and can affect all aspects of your physical being, from emotional
to mental and behavioural problems. Over-drinking, over-eating and over-spending
can all be symptoms of living with a job you loathe, as you seek ways to
reward yourself and make yourself feel better.
And left unchecked these symptoms
can lead to serious health and wealth problems, from alcoholism to debt-related
problems and even the breakdown of relationships with family and friends.
In the worst case scenario it can lead people to seek help for mental illness.
And it is a real problem. Private
healthcare group BUPA, says workplace stress affects one in five working
people, making it the biggest cause of sickness in the UK. It estimates
that more than 105 million working days are lost each year because of work-related
stress, and it says that nearly half a million people in the UK alone genuinely
lay the blame for their illness or ailments on work-related stress.
As Ruth says: "It can become
detrimental to our health - both physically and mentally - to our
relationships, and worst of all to our confidence. Doing something
we hate will mean we are not doing it well, and if this continues for too
long our performance will suffer and we will become defined by it.
"This can lead to a poor career
prognosis and may even blight the rest of your career so just like a health
issue, you do need to give it serious consideration."
It's a well known fact among the
medical profession that extreme and prolonged periods of stress have very
real, physical side-effects. These can range from stomach ulcers and crippling
back pain to, at the even more serious end of the spectrum, an increased
risk of heart attacks, nervous disorders, and psychological problems.
So what can you do if you find yourself
in this sort of rut? The first step is to work out exactly what is causing
you the most unhappiness and dissatisfaction. Ruth says: "Try to understand
why you hate your job so much. Speak to friends or colleagues or even your
boss.
"Is it because of the type
of work, the culture, the hours, and your colleagues or perhaps it is because
you find it difficult? Often there is an easy solution right under your
nose.
"Look for solutions in the
workplace to make things feel better. If you don't get on with your boss,
ask someone you respect to mentor you and act as a sounding board."
And talk to other people at work.
Ruth says you could find they're in the same position as you. "Make
friends and socialise with work colleagues. Often others can feel
the same and a problem shared is a problem halved," she says.
Then make sure that your hatred
of work doesn't start eating into your personal life. This means taking
time to consciously 'switch off' from work. During the working day, take
regular breaks and get away from the workplace, even for 10 minutes. Go
for a walk round the block or read a good book. Do something you love in
your spare time and give your mind and body a complete break from the daily
grind.
As well as your mental well-being,
it's also important to take care of your body and general health. Stress
can adversely affect our immune systems, making us more prone to illness,
so eating well and trying to get as much normal sleep as possible is important.
A definite no-no is turning to drink as a form of escape. Ruth says avoid
self-medicating with alcohol, cigarettes or drugs.
And as she also says, try to keep
it in perspective. "Remember that a job is a job. No matter
how important it is to be earning, staying in a job we hate longer term
can have such a detrimental effect on our whole life it is never worth
it.
"Think of it as a bad marriage.
It's something that will get worse the more you avoid dealing with
it."
If that's you, then it could be
time to dust off your CV and start looking at other opportunities. "Look
for another job and take control of your future. But take care to
choose the right job in the right organisation. Ask lots of questions about
the culture - before you sign on the dotted line," advises Ruth.
